We’re not designed to go through life alone.
We’re sure you’re aware of this adage : “Humans are social creatures” and that’s as true as the earth being round, or the sun rising in the east.
Everyone needs support systems.
They’re a safety net for tough times, and keep your mind sharp, your stress under control, and your health in check.
These connections become more critical than ever as life goes on.
Let’s dive into why they’re essential and what’s happening in your body and brain when they’re missing.
Why Support Systems Are Non-Negotiable
As you age, your body changes not just on the outside but also deep inside.
Support systems play a critical role in how well your brain and body handle these changes.
Let’s see 2 major things they impact.
Oxytocin
Every human connection has oxytocin. It’s called the “bonding hormone.”
This hormone calms your nerves, lowers stress, and makes you feel safer. When you’re with people you trust, sharing a laugh or even just spending time together, your brain releases oxytocin and helps your body relax and heal.
What Happens When Oxytocin Drops?
When your connections fade and oxytocin levels drop, stress hormones like cortisol step in. Here’s what happens inside your body:
Brain Shrinkage
Cortisol targets your hippocampus, the part of the brain responsible for memory and learning.
High cortisol levels over time kill brain cells here, making it harder to remember details or learn new things.
Over time, this damage can cause brain fog, forgetfulness, and eventually cognitive decline.
Nervous System Overload:
With low oxytocin, your sympathetic nervous system (the one responsible for the “fight or flight” response) stays switched on.
This leads to constant tension, anxiety, and even physical symptoms like a racing heart or headaches.
Chronic Inflammation:
Cortisol raises inflammation in your body.
You might notice joint pain, frequent colds, or slow recovery from injuries.
Long-term, this inflammation increases your risk of heart disease, diabetes, and even autoimmune conditions.
Symptoms You May Feel
When oxytocin drops and cortisol takes over, you might experience:
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Mental Fog: Forgetting simple things, losing focus, or feeling “cloudy” all the time.
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Sleep Problems: Difficulty falling asleep or staying asleep, leaving you tired and irritable during the day.
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Weakened Immune System: Getting sick more often or taking longer to recover from colds and flu.
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Constant Anxiety: Feeling restless, on edge, or overwhelmed, even when there’s no clear reason for it.
Simply put, without oxytocin’s calming effect, your body and mind are stuck in stress mode.
The HPA Axis
Your hypothalamic-pituitary-adrenal (HPA) axis is the control center for your stress response.
It works like a fire alarm: a little stress is no problem. But prolonged activation is when the damage begins.
A robust support system acts like a built-in reset button for your HPA axis.
Without it, the system runs on overdrive, flooding your body with stress hormones that wreak havoc on your health.
Chronic stress from isolation or loneliness speeds up your biological ageing by shortening telomeres are the protective caps on your DNA.
Cognitive Decline
Social isolation is one of the strongest predictors of cognitive decline. Here’s why:
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Memory Gaps: Conversations and social interactions keep your brain’s neural pathways strong, and make it easier for you to remember things.
Without strong connections, you might start forgetting names, misplacing everyday items, or losing track of conversations.
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Mental Confusion: Routine tasks like following a recipe or manageing daily schedules, can become overwhelming when your brain isn’t regularly challenged.
One major study showed that older adults with strong social networks had a 50% lower risk of developing dementia.
Why? Because social engagement keeps your brain active and slows down the processes that lead to memory loss and confusion.
The Health Advantages of Support Systems
Cardiovascular Health
Loneliness is as bad for your heart as smoking. [European Society of Cardiology,2018]
Your body responds with stress when you’re socially isolated. This raises blood pressure, promotes inflammation, and increases your risk of heart attacks and strokes.
How Social Interaction Helps
Support systems act like medicine for your heart. Positive social interactions:
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Lower Blood Pressure: Talking and connecting with others helps your nervous system relax, which keeps your blood pressure in check.
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Reduce Inflammation: Chronic loneliness increases inflammatory markers in your blood, which can damage arteries over time. Good relationships reduce these markers.
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Stabilize Heart Rhythms: Feeling supported reduces stress on your heart, leading to healthier and more stable heart rhythms.
Immunity
Being part of a supportive network strengthens your immune system.
The points where we said “support systems reduce stress” ties into your immune system too.
Studies show that people with close social ties recover faster from illnesses and are less likely to catch infections in the first place.
Motivation to Stay Active
As you age, staying physically active becomes harder and it’s also more important than ever.
A strong support system can give you the push you need to keep moving.
How Support Systems Keep You Active
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Accountability: Friends or groups encourage you to stick to routines, could be walking, swimming, or yoga.
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Social Motivation: Exercise becomes more enjoyable when it’s shared. Group classes or walking with friends can turn physical activity into something to look forward to.
Neuroplasticity
Your brain has an incredible ability to adapt, even as you get older.
This process, called neuroplasticity, lets your brain create new pathways to handle stress, recover from injuries, and keep learning.
How Social Connections Supercharge Neuroplasticity
Every meaningful conversation, shared memory, or problem solved with a friend helps your brain form and strengthen neural connections. These interactions encourage your brain to:
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Adapt to Change: When one pathway weakens, social interactions help build new ones.
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Recover from Stress: Connections with others teach your brain to handle challenges better and bounce back faster.
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Stay Flexible: Socially engaged brains stay sharp, reducing the risk of cognitive decline and improving problem-solving skills.
Where to Find Your Support System.
We’ve covered this section already in our basic article here
Life gets a whole lot better when you have the “right” people around you.
The effort you put in now to build relationships will pay off in ways you can’t even imagine.
They’re the reason you can laugh on the worst days,
find solutions to impossible problems, and feel like you’re never truly alone.
Start small. Build your circle, nurture your connections, and see how your life changes.
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